Common Twin Flame Mistakes
15 Mistakes Twin Flames Commonly Make When They Reconnect In This Lifetime
Don’t make these easy mistakes in your Twin Flame Connection...
Meeting your Twin Flame in this lifetime is a truly magical experience. It’s an encounter like no other and has a profound impact on both Twin Flames. Stirring up our beliefs and turning our life as we know it upside down.
Amidst the passion, excitement and elation there is also some serious soul work taking place for the Twin Flames. Confusion, misunderstandings, personal spiritual growth, soul lessons and past karma may all come up now.
(Read more about this Here - When Twin Flames Meet - The First Encounter)
With all this in mind it’s easy to see how the newly reunited Twin Flame couple can run into obstacles. These easy to make mistakes can commonly lead to Twin Flame Running/Chasing, Arguments, Breakups, Twin Flame Karma or Blocks. This list has been created to help you avoid some of these common Twin Flame mistakes as you navigate your path back to unconditional love.
Here is a list of 15 common problems that Twin Flames may face and how you can avoid them…
15 Mistakes Twin Flames can make when they Reconnect in this lifetime
1) Expecting your Twin Flame to be aware of the connection just because you are.
It’s true that both Twin Flames will feel strongly drawn towards each other but just because you have reached a point of spiritual awareness where you realise the true depth of the connection, doesn’t mean that your Twin Flame has.
Twin Flames will always become aware of the connection with divine right timing but remember - “Divine timing” doesn’t necessarily mean “at the same time”
Your Twin Flame may have unfinished cycles or soul lessons to work through before they are able to fully comprehend a connection as profound as the Twin Flame bond and it’s best to allow them to evolve at their own pace and comfort level. Never worry about this and trust that the universe will bring you both into alignment when the time is right.
2) Impulsively feeling compelled to Run from the Twin Flame Relationship.
It’s been well publicised that Twin Flames can unknowingly take on cycles of “Running & Chasing” each other. Although this is common in the Twin Flame dynamic it can be frustratingly drawn out for longer than is necessary or can even be avoided all together, depending on how Twin Flames decide to act on these feelings.
If you’re experiencing the urge to run from your Twin Flame, then that’s okay. The connection can be overwhelming and you may even still be feeling drawn to other people or experiences at the moment and that’s okay too.
You shouldn’t fight those feelings, always listen to what your intuition is telling you. It’s okay to not be quite ready for the relationship when it’s first presented to you. Just because you’ve met your Twin Flame now, doesn’t mean that you’re destined to fall into a fully committed relationship with them immediately.
There are many Twin Flame couples who have spent years in separation, as just friends or with other partners etc before coming together into divine union with their Twin Flame. It’s only after both souls have experienced what they need to as individuals, that they can fully unite.
3) Constantly feeling like you’re Chasing your Twin Flame.
If on the other hand, you feel like you’ve inadvertently taken on the role of the “Chaser” in the Twin Flame relationship, don’t panic!
The truth is that both Twin Flames will at some point experience being the “Runner” and the “Chaser” in one form or another at some stage of the Twin Flame journey.
Remember, you don’t have to “Chase” your Twin Flame - When the time is right, they will come to you.
Feeling like you’re constantly having to chase after your Twin Flame can be draining and disheartening. It can also have the undesired effect of pushing your Twin Flame even further away - the more you chase, the more they’ll run.
No one likes to feel smothered in a relationship, nor should anyone have to feel badgered or pressured in any way. These are toxic behaviours and don’t belong in the Twin Flame connection (or in any relationship) be mindful to keep your interactions healthy.
It can be saddening when our affections or efforts go unnoticed or aren’t reciprocated but persistently trying to get your Twin Flames attention will only end in frustration for you both.
If you feel like you’ve been doing all of the work recently, then take a step back. Focus on yourself and your own spiritual growth, you may have lessons still to learn or goals to be achieved and putting all of your focus onto your Twin Flame could hinder your own success.
4) Reading too much into signs and synchronicities.
It’s well known that there are many divine coincidences, signs & synchronicities which appear in the Twin Flame relationship. Like seeing the famous 1111 and other numbers and signs from the universe.
These almost supernatural like signs and synchronicities can help guide Twin Flames along their journey and into alignment. They are both mystical and beautiful to experience but they can have a dark side too.
We can easily become too engrossed with chasing these magical occurrences or let our imaginations get carried away and start to see signs that aren’t really there.
Remember a genuine sign from the universe will make itself seen or known, you won’t be able to miss it. Never go looking for signs, just allow them to come naturally to you. Trust that you’ll always see what you’re meant to see and let go of any expectations.
5) Ignoring your own Soul Work.
The Twin Flame mission is all about bringing souls back to pure unconditional love. There are many lessons, karmic cycles, obstacles and challenges to undergo before Twin Flames are ready to reconnect in divine union.
Neglecting your soul work will only make the process take longer, focus on what you’re being drawn to, you may still have an unanswered calling.
6) Lying to your Twin Flame.
Unfortunately it can be common for Twin Flames to tell “little white lies” during the beginning of the relationship, this is true for most couples when they’re just starting out and isn’t limited to the Twin Flame relationship but it can have deeper consequences for Twin Flames than for other soul connections.
In the early phases of a new relationship, when Twin Flames are still on their best behaviour around each other, it can be tempting to tell the odd half truth or keep certain opinions to yourself, in the name of making a good impression but this can backfire.
Honesty is always the best approach in any relationship and even more so for Twin Flames. The Twin Flame connection can become complicated enough without throwing a bunch of lies into the mix.
Trust is crucial and even small, seemingly harmless lies can have a huge impact on the relationship, doubts can creep in and once they’re there they’re not easy to get rid of.
You’ll save yourself a lot of future time and energy by being as truthful as you can now. Twin Flames are destined to love each other unconditionally, the good parts and the not so good parts - that won’t be possible if you keep everything that you perceive as negative a secret from your Twin Flame.
7) Emotionally blocking your Twin Flame.
At times the Twin Flame connection might get too much, causing us to close ourselves off from our Twin Flame. Shutting each other out, closing off our energy, ignoring our true feelings and going into spiritual hiding.
Sometimes taking a break is necessary, the Twin Flame drama can get intense and often the universe is striving to create balance between Twin Souls, pushing and transforming the Divine Masculine & Feminine energy within us, it can be tiring.
At times like this there is no need to fully shut out your Twin Flame, just simply draw your focus back to your own energy and healing. Communicate with your Twin Flame and call on them to assist you if you need it.
8) Neglecting Self-love.
The Twin Flame journey is meticulously designed to lead us to divine union and unconditional love. We’ll face many lessons to help us learn to love unconditionally along the way.
It’s important to not only focus on the unconditional love that you have for your Twin Flame or in your relationship but that you learn to love yourself unconditionally as well.
To be able to fully embrace unconditional love, to love and be loved, we must start with ourselves. Practice acts of self love, take time to heal where healing is needed and learn to love yourself unconditionally.
9) Not being mindful of others.
It can be normal for Twin Flames to get so swept up in the new romance that they almost forget that the rest of the world exists. It is a wonderful but consuming love that can change your life in an instant but remember to be mindful of others too.
It’s not completely uncommon for Twin Flames to already be in an existing relationship or even already be married when they unexpectedly meet their Twin Flame. Just like in other relationships this is an emotional minefield for everyone involved and being as mindful as you can of other souls now will make everything easier in the long run.
(Read more about Twin Flames who are in an existing relationship Here - What if my Twin Flame is already married to somebody else?)
Any hurt you cause now has the potential to create new cycles of negative karma that the Twin Flames may end up having to work through later on in the connection. You can still love your Twin Flame and show compassion to others too, be kind & caring when handling sensitive situations, it might not be appreciated at the time but you’ll know you did your utmost to be your best self, even in those difficult times and that’s all anyone can ask for (including the universe!)
10) Relying on your Twin Flame to be the source of all your happiness.
This one counts for any type of relationship and codependency has been widely publicised as a negative and unhealthy relationship trait, be mindful that your relationship remains in a healthy, happy place.
The Twin Flame relationship can be intense, it can feel like a whirlwind with a whole range of emotions and experiences to go with it.
The overpowering draw we feel for our Twin Flame, the way they make us feel complete, how they can often know what we’re thinking or what we need before we even do ourselves, the not wanting to be apart, the way we compliment each other’s strengths and flaws…can all lead us to possibly relying on our Twin Flame a little too much.
This can cause mounting pressure on your Twin Flame and in the relationship. It can also lead to future disappointments as realistically, no one can make you happy all the time. We must be happy alone and happy with ourselves to be able to be truly happy.
Schedule some time for yourself and just enjoy being you for a while. Don’t forget things you used to enjoy before you met your Twin Flame, you’ll both have your own likes, hobbies and interests as individuals and you should continue to enjoy and pursue them throughout your relationship.
11) Obsessing over the Twin Flame connection.
The Twin Flame relationship can become consuming at times, it’s new and exciting and we begin to feel feelings and have thoughts on levels we’ve never reached before.
Twin Flames can make each other become more spiritually aware and for many it may be the first time that they have ever felt that deep of a connection before. Our curiosity of the spiritual world and magic of the universe can reach an all time high, it can easily begin to take over our every thought, which in the long run won’t help us.
It’s fun and exciting when we start out on our spiritual journey and begin to awaken, discovering new practices and ideas can almost become addictive, remember to take a break from your new spiritual studies often, don’t let yourself become obsessed with all these new found concepts. Pace your journey and give yourself time to take it all in.
12) Not allowing your Twin Flame the space they need to grow.
Sometimes we all just need some space, don’t take it personally if your Twin Flame needs a little time for themselves. It’s completely normal and should be expected.
Both you and your Twin Flame will be experiencing some pretty big spiritual changes. You’ll both need time to yourselves occasionally, there’s a lot to process.
When Twin Flames meet they can accelerate each others Spiritual Awakening, this can bring up old karmic cycles, lessons to learn, wounds that need healing etc and both Twin Flames will need time and space to do the soul work needed to grow - allow your Twin Flame that space.
13) Having unrealistic expectations as to how the Twin Flame relationship should be.
Don’t make the mistake of thinking that the Twin Flame relationship is all sunshine and rainbows because you’ll be very disappointed when those rainy days do eventually come.
The Twin Flame relationship has been a little over romanticised in recent years and this can lead to unrealistic expectations. Yes, the Twin Flame relationship is wonderful and beautiful and a great deal of many other amazing things but it is also hard.
The truth is that being in a relationship with your Twin Flame can be difficult at times, there’ll be trials and tribulations, hard soul work to take on and a lot of spiritual growth throughout the journey.
There are times when it feels awful and gut wrenching but it’s all to bring us closer to unconditional love. It’s a tough journey and being a Twin Flame isn’t always easy, don’t be under the illusion that it is.
14) Believing that your Twin Flame is perfect.
At first we are so swept off our feet that we can feel that our Twin Flame is the most perfect person in the entire world…but obviously this is silly, nobody is perfect and your Twin Flame is no exception.
Raising your Twin Flame to such unreachable heights only leaves them with one place to go - and that’s down!
Remember you don’t love them unconditionally because they are “perfect” you love them even with their faults and flaws too, everyone has them and loving someone unconditionally means not only accepting those flaws but loving them too.
Your Twin Flame can be perfect for you, without having to be perfect. Often Twin Flames balance out or compliment each others imperfections, so don’t be afraid to discover that your Twin Flame may not be totally flawless, it’s all part of your growth as a couple.
15) Ignoring your Instincts.
Like everything else in life, it’s always best to trust your gut. The Twin Flame connection functions on a primal, natural level, Twin Flames are naturally drawn to each other and can almost sense each other, instinctively.
Your intuition will be your most valuable tool when navigating the Twin Flame journey, listen to what you’re being guided towards.
Did you and your Twin Flame have to face any of these obstacles?
Do you feel more connected and stronger because you overcame any of these challenges?
x Thank you for reading, I truly hope you found this list helpful x
x Sending you unconditional love and happiness on your Twin Flame Journey x