What if my Twin Flame is already married or in a relationship with somebody else?…
The Twin Flame journey is never easy, it can be full of running, chasing, separation and challenges, obstacles that we can’t even imagine and lessons that we didn’t know we needed to learn… but one of the hardest things Twin Flames can often face is when one or both Twin Souls are already married or in a committed relationship with somebody else…
You’ve had the first encounter…
So, you’re pretty certain you’ve just met your twin flame, you’ve experienced an encounter like no other and you’ve fallen head over heels in love but your happiness is soon followed by a feeling of overwhelming devastation as the upsetting reality creeps in - they’re already married.
(Read more about the first encounter Here - When Twin Flames Meet - The First Encounter)
Endless thoughts flood your mind - Will we ever be together? Are they really my Twin Flame? Should I walk away?…
First of all, go easy on yourself - you’re not the first person to fall in love with somebody who’s already married and you certainly won’t be the last. Driving yourself insane with guilt won’t do you any good right now, try to keep a level head and don’t rush into anything.
There’s No Denying The Twin Flame Connection…
Once Twin Flames encounter each other in this lifetime the journey has well and truly begun but don’t be fooled into thinking that things are going to move quickly or even how you’d like them to because they often won’t.
For both Twin Flames there’s no denying the connection once it has been felt. It may take one Twin Flame longer than the other to discover and realise the true depth of the connection but this is always achieved with divine right timing and isn’t something that we need to try to rush or even worry about, if we can help it.
Allow Your Twin Flame To Awaken To The Connection At Their Own Pace…
Try to appreciate that you’re in a very delicate situation at the moment, the thought of being attracted to someone outside of your marriage is a scary prospect which comes with a whole array of daunting thoughts and emotions.
There’s a chance that your Twin Flame may just simply not want to deal with it at all and push away from the connection entirely and they are completely within their right to do so, not all Twin Flames are destined to unite in this incarnation and as hard as it is, that’s something that we may just have to accept with grace, love and understanding.
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Does your Twin Flame Feel The Same Way About You?…
Sometimes it can be obvious to both Twin Flames almost immediately that there’s something special between them, sometimes it can take years or even lifetimes before both Twin Flames become fully aware of the connection.
Just because you’re aware and convinced that the two of you are Twin Flames or soulmates who were destined to meet, your supposed Twin Flame might not feel the same way, in this case, like with any relationship, it’s best to walk away.
The feelings have to be mutual, even if your desired partner is unaware of the Twin Flame concept they will still feel unexplainably drawn to you, so don’t ever try to force something that just isn’t there. They may simply have been a crush and not your Twin Flame and you shouldn’t be disappointed about that, it’s best to know and carry on with your journey than to waste your own time.
We’ve already expressed our feelings for each other…
You’ve become close enough as friends to both realise that you have strong feelings for each other, whether you declare them to each other or not, both Twin Flames will have a lot to think about. Relationships can get messy quickly and Twin Flame couples are no different, just because you are Twin Flames doesn’t mean things are going to be easy, if anything it may make the journey even tougher.
Don’t be disheartened, the universe won’t give us more than we can handle or any less than we need to learn to bring us into union. Having faith in the divinity of the connection is crucial to allowing the path to unfold before us.
Try not to be unfaithful if your Twin Flame is already married…
Now, I don’t for one second condone cheating, being unfaithful is extremely damaging to all involved and should be avoided if possible but I also sympathise with the often overwhelming feelings of lust, love and attraction Twin Flames and Soulmates can be faced with when they are unexpectedly thrown into each others lives.
If you and your Twin Flame have already crossed that line and have been intimate with each other behind your partners backs, it might be worth slowing things down and taking your time going forward.
Remember whatever you do now will eventually end up being reflected back to you via the Twin Flame Mirror. It’ll be kinder on yourself in the long run to do your best to not let others get hurt now.
(You can read more about the Twin Flame Mirror Here - The Twin Flame Mirror - What Are You Reflecting?)
Are you and your Twin Flame playing out unfinished karma?…
Twin Flames can spend lifetimes creating and clearing karmic cycles before coming together into full union. This past karma can often involve other souls as well - wives, husbands, family, friends may all be familiar souls from past incarnations. It’s entirely possible that you, your Twin Flame and their/your current partner/s may be experiencing this for a reason, you may have encountered each other before under very different circumstances, in a past life.
You may have already spent many lifetimes together, making mistakes, learning soul lessons and growing spiritually together in a vast range of scenarios and lifestyles, creating chaos and karma wherever you went.
These karmic cycles will continue to play out, one way or another, whether we like it or not but we do have free will and the ability to choose how we handle every situation that we face. So be open to and accept your karma with grace whilst doing your best to not create any new negative cycles, as they’ll have to be worked out eventually too and any hurt that we cause now will come back around to us.
(Avoid these common Twin Flame mistakes in your relationship, discover more Here - 15 common mistakes Twin Flames make when they reconnect in this lifetime)
Will I ever get to be with my Twin Flame?…
Yes! All Twin Flames are destined to eventually reunite, we just can’t predict exactly where or when that day may be but have faith that it will come.
For now continue to focus on your own individual spiritual growth, you can’t control the rate at which your Twin Flame will awaken at, nor can you know what individual or joint karma they and their current partner have between them, they may still have their own cycles and lessons to work through before your Twin Flame can fully acknowledge or embrace this connection.
Protect your energy and try not to intrude on your Twin Flames marriage or relationship. If you’re meant to be together instead of them, then you will be. You don’t need to bring negative karma or energy upon yourself by being the one who causes hurt or pain in their relationship. If your Twin Flame is in a marriage that isn’t made to last, then it won’t, even without you in the picture, marriages fail everyday for a whole range of different reasons. If fate wants you two to be together then it will pave a way for you to be together.
You and your Twin Flame might be destined for more than just romance…
You could be fated to be dear friends with your Twin Flame in this lifetime and there’s nothing wrong with that. Both Twin Flames may be destined to marry or spend this incarnation with a soulmate romantically and this is magical and powerful in its own beautiful way and not to be missed. So, don’t deprive yourself of other potentially life changing and wonderful relationships that may develop, go with the flow and you may be pleasantly surprised where your path takes you.
Was your Twin Flame married when you met them, how did you proceed?…let us know in the comments below
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